A parenting plan is more than a calendar. Children may need consistency across homes, clear communication between adults and arrangements that can adapt as circumstances change. Legal parenting requirements vary by jurisdiction; this guide helps you organize questions to ask.
Start with the child’s everyday experience
Focus on daily routines and each child’s age and needs. Note school, sleep, health, activities and the people who support them. Avoid using children to carry messages between adults.
A plan that suits one family may not suit another. Any arrangement should take safety and individual needs seriously.
A schedule to think through
Rather than assuming equal time or one fixed pattern, write down what is realistic in both homes.
- Weekday and weekend routines; school drop-offs and collections.
- School holidays, birthdays and other special occasions.
- Transport and handover arrangements.
- How adults will handle unexpected changes or illness.
Healthcare, education and communication
Consider who holds key information, how school and medical updates are shared and which contact methods are appropriate.
- Who can be contacted in an emergency?
- How will information from teachers and health professionals be shared?
- How will each child maintain appropriate contact with both households when safe?
Shared costs
Prepare a practical list of routine costs such as school items, meals, transport, healthcare and activities. Use the budget planner to record expenses rather than assuming any child support amount.
Child support is governed by different rules in Australia and across US states; use the appropriate official agency or court information.
If you cannot agree
You may need mediation, support services or legal advice suited to your jurisdiction. Where safety or family violence is involved, joint negotiation may be inappropriate.
Our checklist is only a starting point for preparing questions. It is not a binding parenting agreement or a substitute for child-focused professional advice.
Official sources and further reading
These sources are starting points, not a substitute for local professional guidance. Check the current version of each page.